Do I Really Need To Impress?!?!

It’s that time again! The Sandbox Writing Challenge 2018-exercise 9. I hope you’re having fun playing in the sandbox with us. And maybe learning something about yourself? I so appreciate everyone’s contributions from last week. That challenge was a bit harder. But NOW comes the really creative part! (Evil grin…)

Actually this was also a hard challenge just to post because I realized as I was looking for pictures similar to the one in the book, the facial expression on the picture I chose was going to affect what you wrote. I matched it as best I could. So we’ll see what happens.

Imagine wanting to impress this woman. What would you say about yourself?

(And here’s a couple bonus questions for after you answer the prompt. How do you think different expressions on the picture would have affected your answer, or do you? What if it had been a group of younger women or a man or group of men? Really am trying to make a point here!)

As always, remember to include a link to this post on YOUR blog post. Or if your response isn’t overly long, feel free to leave it in the comment section below. If you would like to play with us and see the previous prompts, they’re listed in the menu at the top of the blog in The Sandbox Writing ChallengeBut please feel free to just jump in wherever we are at the moment! After all the prompts are really for YOU to get to know YOURSELF! So put your thinking caps on and have fun!!!

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I realize there are times when one needs to impress an individual (seeking employment as an example). That doesn’t pertain to me at the moment (thankfully).

Soooooooooooo……..

With that said, I’m not someone who looks to impress anyone. Not anymore. I stopped worrying about what others say or thought/think about me a long time ago. That’s not saying I intentionally look to shock or to come across unapproachable or unlikable..quite the opposite. I am an ambivert, who likes people.

It was my late husband (Wow..there’s a first…I’ve never referenced Jim that way in the 73 weeks/ 511 days he’s been gone), Jim, who really ‘got me’. I had a tendency to over-think things, apologize for everything that went wrong, even if it wasn’t my doing or fault. I was a people-pleaser. I wanted to be liked. I wanted and needed to be included….I would be, do or say whatever needed to in order to impress..in order to be liked..in order to ‘fit in’…yet not wanting to go ‘all out’ and draw attention to myself..instead wanting to blend in while being included….So, all the while, I never fully knew who I was…..my first go-round in the Sandbox helped me to excavate and discover so much of Me, Myself and I.

But it was Jim who opened my ‘eyes’ and my heart and helped me ‘see’……..with his love, encouragement and support, I grew into someone I liked and loved…and I still do. Even in death, his love transcends time….his support and belief in me I still feel…..and no longer do I feel the need to fit in or compromise who I am or what I believe.

I am a widow. Yet I don’t feel I fit the stereotype that some may have. It’s been brought to my attention a few times from some ‘concerned friends’ that I don’t act or look the part. Once again I am reminded that some people will get me, some have no clue. That’s not my problem.

So, in short, I’d answer that question with this answer……..I’d look said woman with the snarky face in the eyes and say……….with a smile, “Hello, my name is Linda, nice to meet you.”

Silent Wings

Today is 506 Days since he left……..

I FEEL THE FLUTTER

OF MY HEARTS WINGS…

UPON THE WIND

I SING YOUR NAME.

Saturday Sound Bites-Simplify/Simplicity

I’ve missed the last few Saturdays of Lady Calen’s Saturday Sound Bites.

This weekend she poses the question….

If you could own only four possessions for the rest of your life, what would they be?

Ive decided to bend the ‘rules’ here and change it up just a tad, oh ok, I’m doing a total 360 here!! Instead of listing four possessions that would simplify…I’m going to share four things that to me, at this moment, exemplify the beauty and SIMPLICITY of a moment………

Like the unexpected , sporadic blooming of daffodils all around my property.

Looking up and seeing a sky full of cotton balls.

The flowering blossoms of a Pear Tree

…and unexpectedly finding a path that lead me to water.

Our Perfect Union

The Sandbox Writing Challenge-Exercise 8

If it’s Tuesday it must be The Sandbox Writing Challenge time! Thank you so much to everyone who participated last week. There were some terrific posts. You guys are all PONDERERS!

This week’s writing challenge is a little more thought provoking. We all have our ideas about it, but after reading this prompt I realized mine were actually pretty vague — if I have any ideas about it at all! And yet it’s there in the back of my mind because I can definitely tell when I violate my own ideals! Can’t wait to see what you do with it.

So tell us, would you please, what is YOUR idea of…

As always, remember to include a link to this post on YOUR blog post. Or if your response isn’t overly long, feel free to leave it in the comment section below. If you would like to play with us and see the previous prompts, they’re listed in the menu at the top of the blog in The Sandbox Writing Challenge.But please feel free to just jump in wherever we are at the moment! After all the prompts are really for YOU to get to know YOURSELF! So put your thinking caps on and have fun!!!

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Perfect: entirely without any flaws, defects, or shortcomings

Perfection: the state or quality of being or becoming perfect.

My idea of perfection, or lack there of…….Mine and Jims relationship. It was, in fact, perfectly imperfect.

We came together as 2 individually broken people. From that first day on the boat together in May 2002, the brokenness that brought us together began the infusion that would eventually turn the we we were, into an US. We came together and shared our strengths and weaknesses, our flaws, our mistakes. We loved each other hard and we loved and accepted each other not only in spite of our imperfections, but because of them.

Whenever an EHarmony commercial would come on tv, we’d laugh, knowing full well if we had filled out their compatibility questionnaire we would never have been matched.

I was Blessed with 14 + years of an imperfectly perfect relationship with my perfectly imperfect man……………….together in our hearts we were and in my heart…Still ‘Perfection’.